I grew up very poor. Like, off-grid because it was cheaper, not because it was only good for the environment, poor. My mom didn't even buy new underwear for at least 15 years. And I think about how we laud 7-year abstinence practices, and how that attention compares to the attention we give poverty and child and maternal mortality rates. And I think about how privileged we all are. It's shocking some days to look at my life - in Silicon Valley, child goes to a private school, the amount we all spend on things like kindergarten birthday parties, etc etc. It grounds me. I guess my point in all this, is I am as glad for the articles on abstinence as I am about poverty, because we need both to encourage social change.
Also, I packed for a 4-week trip in just carryons for the whole family! So proud of myself, and I thought of your example from last summer's France trip as my inspo!
And as for kids coming to the age where they are noticing bodies - I felt this topic! I have severe acne scarring, so severe people used to remark on it - strangers in public. My kiddo is now noticing it and we talk about it whenever he asks. It's been so healing for me to see how readily he accepts the factual way I talk about it, and about how he doesn't see my scars as me. I am me. The scars are just background, like my hair color or height or the shape of my mouth. It's been wonderful. Motherhood has healed - and continues to heal - me in so many ways!
I love the articles linked each week. Always thought provoking, thanks Natalie :) There was a great article about influences on The Financial Diet's youtube this week to you might like. You were one of a very small handful of content creators I could think of that don't act like the ones described in the online essay -- but it was such an interesting look behind the curtain.
Great job handling the conversation with your kid since I would be tempted to say “that’s mean!” and go hide in my closet until I cooled down. I think it’s especially important to remind kids that some of the things they say can feel critical even though they didn’t mean it to be so. Also, maybe I need that reminder to not say anything to myself unless it’s 100% kind.
Love the way you handled this moment with your child. Beautiful and such a great lesson for us all! And thank you so very much for sharing my Italy packing guide. Excited to share the looks IRL :).
So many teachable moments with children, aren’t there? I love that one small conversation — backed by living out these truths — can hopefully set our kids up to live (and focus on) very different things than I, personally, was encouraged to obsess over!
This really resonates! I have 2 kids that are young and one who is neurodivergent. She shares exactly what comes to mind and has no understanding of the emotional aspect of communication. When she says things sometimes I have to explain why it could be perceived as hurtful to some people. I think the way you handled that interaction was beautiful and I’m absolutely going to use your reasoning! Thanks for sharing!!!
Ummmmmmmmm, would you be willing to share the details on that GORG black tank top with the loop/circle open cut-outs/ties. OBSESSED.
It’s olive green, but here’s the link! NatalieB15 for 15% off: https://go.shopmy.us/p-5321432
Thank you so much! Appreciate you taking the time to send. Will def use your link if I purchase!
I grew up very poor. Like, off-grid because it was cheaper, not because it was only good for the environment, poor. My mom didn't even buy new underwear for at least 15 years. And I think about how we laud 7-year abstinence practices, and how that attention compares to the attention we give poverty and child and maternal mortality rates. And I think about how privileged we all are. It's shocking some days to look at my life - in Silicon Valley, child goes to a private school, the amount we all spend on things like kindergarten birthday parties, etc etc. It grounds me. I guess my point in all this, is I am as glad for the articles on abstinence as I am about poverty, because we need both to encourage social change.
Also, I packed for a 4-week trip in just carryons for the whole family! So proud of myself, and I thought of your example from last summer's France trip as my inspo!
And as for kids coming to the age where they are noticing bodies - I felt this topic! I have severe acne scarring, so severe people used to remark on it - strangers in public. My kiddo is now noticing it and we talk about it whenever he asks. It's been so healing for me to see how readily he accepts the factual way I talk about it, and about how he doesn't see my scars as me. I am me. The scars are just background, like my hair color or height or the shape of my mouth. It's been wonderful. Motherhood has healed - and continues to heal - me in so many ways!
I'm always happy to hear about adults handling body image questions kindly, curiously and reasonably! And also, you're so chic
I love the articles linked each week. Always thought provoking, thanks Natalie :) There was a great article about influences on The Financial Diet's youtube this week to you might like. You were one of a very small handful of content creators I could think of that don't act like the ones described in the online essay -- but it was such an interesting look behind the curtain.
Ohh that sounds interesting!
My granddaughter regularly makes comments about my and my husband’s body. It doesn’t offend us, but I do make sure she knows it’s not cool.
Great job handling the conversation with your kid since I would be tempted to say “that’s mean!” and go hide in my closet until I cooled down. I think it’s especially important to remind kids that some of the things they say can feel critical even though they didn’t mean it to be so. Also, maybe I need that reminder to not say anything to myself unless it’s 100% kind.
Yes! What we say to ourselves matters 🤍
Love the way you handled this moment with your child. Beautiful and such a great lesson for us all! And thank you so very much for sharing my Italy packing guide. Excited to share the looks IRL :).
Such a great lineup of things!! Hope it’s the best trip.
So many teachable moments with children, aren’t there? I love that one small conversation — backed by living out these truths — can hopefully set our kids up to live (and focus on) very different things than I, personally, was encouraged to obsess over!
This really resonates! I have 2 kids that are young and one who is neurodivergent. She shares exactly what comes to mind and has no understanding of the emotional aspect of communication. When she says things sometimes I have to explain why it could be perceived as hurtful to some people. I think the way you handled that interaction was beautiful and I’m absolutely going to use your reasoning! Thanks for sharing!!!
how does the racerback tank differ from the not so basic tank from sold out? thank you!
The racerback cuts in more in the front, and of course has the racerback fit in the back vs the other one, which has a more similar back to front cut.